What is going on?? Reacting with Frustrations….

‘Please just be quiet and go play!! Mommy is busy and needs to get stuff done!!’

Have you shouted this at your kiddo? Especially at your little one? Chances are you have. Maybe not the exact same words but something similar.

And then time passes, you’re done what you were doing (or not) and start feeling that internal guilt. You realize that you have yelled at you child who is innocent in all of this. Kids come to us because we are their ‘go to’ person. They ‘annoy’ us in a beautiful way because they want the needed attention from you. They may not necessarily NEED you at certain times, but they WANT you. They want to be around you. You’re someone that keeps them safe. You’re someone that protects them from the monsters. You’re someone that takes care of them. YOU are their mama.

I am a victim of this myself. I learn lessons each day. I’ve learned how to keep the shouting at bay. However, when there are things that I cannot put off and need to finish, that frustration always tries to come back.

So, what do I do when it does? I take a time-out. I make sure my daughter is safe, I put my headphones in, and put music on that I know for a fact will change my feelings from deep inside. When it puts a smile on my face, I am able to reconnect with the notion that my child just wants to spend time with me. I now cut myself off before the frustrations set in. I show gratitude. I no longer want to feel guilty for shouting. And I don’t because I keep the shouting at bay.

Listen, I’m not perfect. I make mistakes. I am human like you. So, sometimes as much as you are trying to ‘control’ yourself, your emotions take over and you just break. I want to tell you that it’s OKAY! You are allowed moments of weakness.

The message I’m trying to convey here is that you are doing a job of many professions in your household and there are times when it just gets to be too much. I don’t ever want you to get to the point where you break down completely. So, I want you to do the following when you’re feeling a little off balance with your emotions and your frustrations are creeping up:

• Take a time-out. Seriously. Go for a walk (with your kiddo if you need to) and breathe.
• Put some HIGH FREQUENCY VIBRATIONAL sounds on, pop your earbuds in for full effect, and just be with it for a few minutes
• Smile and Laugh! Doing this will automatically put you in a better mood. After all, laughter is the best medicine.
• Do some 5-10 minutes of deep breathing exercises. This relaxes and calms the mind and may even put you in a state of euphoria. It is super calming.
• Take a nap! Yes, sometimes your crankiness and frustrations can be attributed to not getting quality sleep. So, if you are able to, opt for an hour and a half. And if it’s not possible because of mom-duty, then simple just rest for half an hour with your kiddo next to you.
• Start writing down a Gratitude list. You’ll be amazed at the power that holds. Give it a go.
• Talk to someone! Whether that’s a friend, a spouse, a family member, or someone who will just listen without judgment. I personally let everything out to my accountability coach. I like to talk to someone who isn’t a part of my circle but is a part of my emotional circle if you know what I mean. I release everything because I know they listen, they offer encouragement, they offer solace, and they do it all without judgment. It’s honestly better than therapy. Whoever you choose, just make sure that you get what you need to get off your chest to them and they will be your biggest support.

So, take this list and apply it if you ever find yourself in a situation where you’re having a hard time getting out of your own head.

I feel you. I understand you. I know where you are coming from. I’ve been there thousands of times.

If you need a support system, please reach out to me mama. Don’t hold it in. I’m here to offer you a helping hand along the way. I believe that you are strong and can break through anything.

Book a FREE Call with me and let’s figure it out together.

Have a beautiful day.

xo Agnieszka