Bad Mom vs. Great Mom – Mindset Shift

Hi mama,

Today, I want to chat about your inner self-talk and what it does to your mindset. That little voice in your head that constantly talks to you, is it spewing thoughts of positivity, or is it leaning more towards those limiting and negative ones? How are you behaving during that time? Are you someone whose kids want to be around or stay as far away as they can? Here’s the thing, what you say to yourself internally has a profound impact on the actions you take during the day. The way you speak to others, especially your children stem from that.

Your mind is the most powerful tool at your disposal. It’s so strong that it can actually either make you sick or healthy on both physical and emotional spectrum. So, embracing a positive mindset is such a vital aspect of nurturing one’s self-esteem and fostering a healthy environment for both you and your child. Here, let’s explore some ways you can make that important shift:

From Doubt to Self-Belief

• Old Thought: “I am a bad mom because I lost my patience and raised my voice.”
• New Thought: “I am a great mom who had a human moment of frustration. I will take a deep breath, apologize if necessary, and try to handle things calmly next time.”

From Guilt to Forgiveness

• Old Thought: “I am a bad mom because I allowed my child to have too much screen time today.”
• New Thought: “I am a great mom who made the best decision in that moment. It’s okay to have off days, and it doesn’t define my entire parenting journey.”

From Comparison to Self-Compassion

• Old Thought: “I am a bad mom because I can’t offer my child the same experiences as other moms.”
• New Thought: “I am a great mom who provides unique and loving experiences for my child, tailored to our family’s values and situation. I am enough just as I am.”

From Overwhelm to Mindfulness

• Old Thought: “I am a bad mom because I didn’t have time to make a homemade dinner.”
• New Thought: “I am a great mom who provided nourishment for my child, no matter how simple the meal. I am doing my best, and that’s more than enough.”

From Fear to Trust

• Old Thought: “I am a bad mom because I don’t have all the answers.”
• New Thought: “I am a great mom who is learning and growing alongside my child. It’s okay not to have all the answers; what matters is that I am here, present and loving, ready to explore life’s questions with my child.”

From Perfectionism to Realism

• Old Thought: “I am a bad mom because my house is often messy.”
• New Thought: “I am a great mom who prioritizes spending quality time with my child over having a spotless home. A happy, loved child is more important than a perfect home.”

Remember, mama, that you are enough, just as you are. Each day, you’re doing your best, and your best is more than enough. Embrace yourself with kindness, understanding, and a gentle, nurturing spirit, allowing room for growth, forgiveness, and boundless love. You’re doing a great job, and you are a great mom!

Have a beautiful day!

xoxo Agnieszka